14 August 2014

Madichard Wedding: What I Wore

All photos by [Amy Allen Photography]

I got my wedding dress for $149 from [Modcloth]. I loved it! We was hot and muggy, so the light fabric was perfect and not clingy. That said, the dress was on the sheer side. I had originally planned to wear a supportive slip or a long-line bra and a slip but nothing looked right under it. Solution? No underwear! It was cooler anyway but it made the removal of the garter a little more exciting for Richard. I did wear one of those [adhesive bras] to keep a bra-like shape. I already had one at home, but they retail for $20-$30 at fabric stores. The dress was also low in the front, so it was nice to be able to stick the bra at the right height and know it wouldn't move.

I got my [shoes] super-on sale at Belk's for about $20. I wanted flats because I have a floor length dress and I think it's cute to be so much shorter than Richard. And I love heels but I didn't want to have to change my shoes if my feet got tired. At my friend Ashley's recommendation, I went with a blushy pink color instead of trying to match the whites and ivories in my dress. I loved them! They're also very re-wearable with jeans and skirts.

I kind of forget to order a garter until the week before. I had originally intended to get a cute one off Etsy, but the window had passed. The ones available on Amazon either looked weird or cheap or completely not in the right size for my luscious thighs. Fortunately, Ashley had given me a ribbon-tie garter when Richard and I first got engaged and it was lovely! Very easy to wear and still elastic. I also got my lace glovelettes and hair band from Ashley's stash and they both fit in so well with my dress! The only jewelry I wore was a mermaid necklace Richard gave me on our six-month mark. I had seen it at DragonCon a few months prior and picked it up for me as a surprise. (I was named after the mermaid in Splash, like so many '85ers.

I have a very short pixie/undercut courtesy of Ellen at [PLUM Hair Atelier], so I did my own hair for the wedding. I painted my own nails with the toes in Zoya's [Beatrix] and the nails (which I keep VERY short) in [Liberty]. Both are textured matte glitters. I did my own makeup as well since I wanted to look like myself. I wear cat-eye style eye-liner very frequently, so I did a think single line in black and a thin line at the lashes in an electric blue (matched my nails!) to end in a double wing. I also used Ardell [#301] accent lashes to compliment my own. False lashes really help your eyes show in pictures! The half-lashes look very natural in person. Pro-tip: do all the eye make-up first in case something goes horribly awry. I'm pretty comfortable doing that sort of makeup, so I didn't hit any snags. I skipped the eye-shadow and opted for layered foundation, creme blush in bright pink, and powder. I went with a sheer coral over my lips for a matte pink effect.

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Madichard Wedding: The Unity Cocktail

All photos by [Amy Allen Photography]

Instead of a unity candle or handfasting, Richard and I opted to mix and drink a unity cocktail during our ceremony. We worked with our amazing officiant, Joy, and her partner, Jamie to mix the drink and the figure out the symbolism before hand.

  • One part Barenjager Honey Liqueur for sweetness and whimsy
  • One part Maker's Mark Bourbon for "fiery passion"
  • Two parts ginger beer for setting down roots and stability to bind it all together
We used some glasses and bar ware from home and mini-creamer pitchers to pre-measure the liquids before the ceremony. Richard and I took turns adding an ingredient, and then Joy topped it off with ginger beer and gave it a stir. She poured the drink into our glasses and there we go!


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Madichard Wedding: The Fresh Cut Bouquet

All photos by [Amy Allen Photography]

I had so much fun making my bouquet! I knew I wanted a messy, wildflower feel and my original concept involved Black-eyed Susans and Queen Anne's Lace. We had a warm run right before the wedding, so most of the Queen Anne's Lace was pretty toasted the day before the wedding. Oh well!

For the other flowers, I went to the big State Farmers' Market near my house and bought a few six-inch pots of perennials for about $4-6 each. Bonus feature: I have them ready to get planted in my flower bed out front.

The final mix was:
  • Rosemary from my garden
  • Lavendar sprigs and flowers from my garden
  • Two kinds of Black-eyed Susans
  • Coreopsis in butter yellow and orange
  • Purple Echniacea

We cut the flowers just minutes before walking down and bound them up with twine. After the ceremony, I set them in a vase on our table until the bouquet and garter toss melee. I adored that it was seasonal, colorful, informal, fragrant, and SUPER fresh.

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13 August 2014

Madichard Wedding: Krispy Kreme Doughnut Cake

All photos by [Amy Allen Photography]

For the wedding, Richard came up with the brilliant idea of skipping the cake and going for doughnuts! The Krispy Kreme was right up the street from the [venue], so we arranged to have hot'n'nows picked up an hour or two before our noon wedding.

As with our ersatz North Carolina meets Asian paper products theme, we had our friends stack the doughnuts and decorate them with paper cocktail umbrellas! Some of the paper fans are in the background as well. We had a picnic basket full of them in case it was warm outside during the ceremony (but mainly they were SUPER fun!).

The color theme was loosely orange and turquoise, so there was a coordinated little surprise on our cutting doughnut.

We served them on color-themed cocktail napkins. The doughnut cake was low-key, fun, super economical, and reflected the light-hardheartedness of our wedding without being tacky. I think we got twenty dozen for our wedding of 160 guests and there were a couple boxes left for people to take home. I think the cost was less than $125 for the treats, and I spent maybe $35 for the cupcake tiers and platter.

I would definitely do it again!

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19 July 2014

Dream journal

Dream last night: we were having some kind of party at someplace like my grandmother's house (it featured my paper decorations) and we cleaned the back yard. There was a weeping angel statue in the back of the yard. It “infected” some guests and my brother and I started rushing everyone inside and telling them not to blink. I had to kill one of the guys and then we tried to barricade the door. But it turns out the guy was just playing a prank!


There was also a very vivid dream with MTV's Daria that involved going to a hippie couple's hotel room and then a wild chase away from a guy and a girl through the woods and then there was a hamster? I managed to evade them through a series of warehouse-like storage rooms. And then someone gave me a key for any lock and I could escape and go steal a flashy little car but then I became friends with the guy chasing me that I may have killed earlier. Oh, and I outran the police by going so fast in the car that it was flying so they gave up. The hamster and I walked off into the woods next to the plastic surgeon's place in the strip mall.

23 April 2014

A Big Damn Willie Warmer

Truly, some of my finest work. This was actually a commission though the penis-pom and ball-flaps are my own contribution to being a big damn hero.

Pattern info [here].

And don't forget [Ravelry]!

07 March 2014

Heather Dale and Ben Deschamps

I had the pleasure of seeing celtic/Arthurian/folk/etc. musician [Heather Dale] and her musical partner Ben Deschamps live for the second time last night.

What an amazing show! She does a great job of combining storytelling and music--very much a modern troubador who spend months out of the year on the road. I'm always blown away by their combination of art and spot-on technical skill both in music and vocals.

Anyway, I wanted to mention that she has a [completely free live album] called Perpetual Gift. I'm not usually much of a live album enthusiast, but this one is really good. The sound quality and execution is very much like their studio albums because they're such awesome, consistent, professional performers. It combines the energy and storytelling of her live shows with great recordings of some of her most popular songs. It's a perfect introduction to her music.

So go [download] it! Burn it! Put it on USB sticks!

She's also got (at the time of this post) fifteen more days on an IndieGoGo campaign to help launch her [Celtic Avalon] project. It's a touring musical/mixed performance art touring show of the King Arthur story. It will be combined with an educational component AND you can get a professionally produced concert DVD of the show!

02 January 2014

illogiCon 2014 Panel Schedule

This is still a bit preliminary, but my [illogiCon panel/event schedule] is as follows:

3pm- LGBT Inclusion in Fandom
6pm - Breaking into Burlesque
9pm - Smutty Fanfiction
10pm - Open Filk

10am - Romanticized Mars vs. Real Mars
Noon - Make-up for Costumers (I'll be doing a clown grease demo)
1pm - Ethics in SF
9pm - Nerd-Vana Variety Show
After - Open Filk

10am - "Hard" vs. "Soft" SF
Noon - Women in Fan Culture
3pm - Running Table Top Games
6pm - Geek Arts and Crafts (hands-on!)

And don't forget to bring singles for the [Nerd-Vana] show on Saturday! 18 and up only and we'll have to card at the door. I'll be doing two songs and a little bird told me there would be a sexy Kirk...

30 December 2013

Minta Durfee Shrug

My friend was in the middle of knitting this cute shrug pattern when the blog that was hosting it fell off the internet. I managed to get a snapshot from the Google cache and save the pattern into a .pdf. I'm not sure if I'm allowed to do this.

The shrug is a re-write of a 1912 pattern for modern knitters by Elizabeth F. It's knit flat with worsted weight yarn and then seamed under the arms.

[Pattern .pdf]

The [original Ravelry info] is still up.

03 December 2013


Filk-lesque: one of those annoying blend portmanteaux that describes what I've been doing all year. I perform musical acts of an often nerdy bent at burlesque, variety, and cabaret-style shows in Raleigh, and the rest of the Triangle and Triad. I usually perform in clown-style full face makeup, but I've also appeared in my own skin and in drag!

Check out my [videos and music]!

There are also TONS of pictures on my performer Facebook page and a list of upcoming shows.

Photo by Patrick Kirby

14 July 2013

Snuggles for Shelter Animals

I was browsing [Ravelry] and came across the [Snuggles Project].

The Snuggles Project encourages people to knit, crochet, sew, or otherwise fashion small, machine-washable blankets for animals in shelters and rescues. You take the Snuggles to your shelter/rescue of choice on your and then report it back to the site to say you participated in the project.

I've been working some cat-sized (14x14 inch to 24x24 inch) blankets for the often beleaguered Wake County Animal Shelter. If anyone would like to join me, let me know and I can drop off a bundle. I'm almost up to one square yard of Snuggles knit! It's a TERRIFIC stash-buster for all that bulk acrylic I have lying around. Since I'm still a fairly simple knitter, it's also been a great way to practice more complicated stitch patterns (and by complicated I mean more complex than a 1x1 rib :P). I'm starting on a fisherman's rib blanket and it's SQUISHY.

Scrap yarn Snuggle!

[Snuggles Patterns] has lots of plushy stitch patterns to try!

And finally, a spreadsheet of my [running Snuggle yardage].